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What to do Before Relocating for a Relationship

Today we want to provide tips on what to do before relocating for a relationship. Relationships aren’t always easy to figure out. The person you’ve been dreaming of meeting might end up having to relocate to a different part of the country or perhaps another continent. What’s the next step? Do you decide to stay behind and pursue a long-distance relationship, or do you pack up your whole life and follow them?

Asking for advice from loved ones or even strangers in an online forum may help put things in perspective, but you shouldn’t allow it to sway your whole point of view. What’s correct for one person may not be appropriate for another. Read on to find out what you need to do before making the big move if you decide to relocate for the sake of a new romance. Moving might be the best thing you’ve ever done, but it could be a big mistake – this is why you need to think things through very carefully. 

Discuss The Future 

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If you’re making such a significant adjustment in your life for a relationship, it’s natural to want to talk about the future of that connection with your partner. If it seems like the wrong moment to talk about long-term commitment or even marriage, it may also be the wrong time to move across the world together. You must be certain that this relationship will succeed before making such a huge commitment and uprooting your entire life.

Consider a life together one year, five years, or even ten years in the future. If you can’t, or if you’re unsure, it would be a good idea to attempt a long-distance relationship before moving to see how you feel about each other before making the adjustment and relocating entirely. If you move somewhere with your partner and it doesn’t work out, the last thing you want to do is resent them for it. Plus, trying to decide what happens next is always going to be difficult, causing stress for everyone. Remember, there is more to consider than just where you live; you might also need to talk to experts about green card renewal and other legal necessities. 

Explore Your Potential New Home

Even if you are certain that this is the perfect move for you, you should still view your possible new house before making that promise. If you’ve never lived in a major city before, you may not like it once you’re there. The same is true if you’re relocating to the country after being surrounded by the hustle and bustle of city living your whole life.

Try out your new place by staying for the weekend or longer, knowing that you can return home. You must like – and preferably love – where you live as well as want to be with your partner, otherwise anger and issues may arise just because you would rather be somewhere different.

What Are The Living Arrangements? 

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The living accommodations are something that is frequently overlooked while planning a relocation. You may have anticipated that you would be moving in together right away, but is that the case? It’s best to double-check. Perhaps you will purchase your first home together but will have to live apart until you find a place to buy, for example.

Or are you going to move into their place, somewhere they already call home? If that’s the case, what can you take with you? What size is it? Will you be required to pay rent? Are there going to be roommates to meet and ideally get along with? All of these concerns must be handled and resolved long before you pack your belongings and relocate hundreds of miles away.

Have A Job Lined Up

Wherever you travel, whether it’s to a different city, a different state, or even a foreign country, you’ll most likely need a job, and it’s better to have one set up before you leave than to go and then attempt to find one once you’ve already moved. At the very least, you’ll know that you’re financially secure, plus you’ll want to be independent, especially if you’re paying rent or buying a property together. 

What sort of employment you can get will depend on where you go, and there may be some training you need to complete beforehand to guarantee that when you start applying for jobs, you have a better chance of getting them. Once you have your new certificate, qualification, or training, you can begin looking for employment that will provide you with both money and happiness.

Have A Backup Plan

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Although many relationships succeed and you will be together forever, things can sometimes happen, and the relationship could fail; you can just never tell. If you’ve transferred everything away from home, you’ll have no backup plan and may feel trapped and lonely if your relationship ends. Perhaps you’ll even stay in a bad relationship because you don’t know what else to do.

Instead, having a backup plan. You might rent out or sublease your old home so that you have somewhere to return to. You could store objects in storage to make them simpler to relocate if necessary. Ideally, none of this will be necessary, but it’s always better to be safe than sorry, at least at first. When you’re completely established and satisfied, you can take your belongings out of storage or give up your previous apartment, but until then, it’s advisable to keep everything just in case.

Save Money 

Moving is costly, and it is not something that you can do quickly. It will take weeks, if not months, to organize a move, depending on where you are going and what visa applications and other papers are required, and you’ll need to spend money during that time finding a place to live, traveling for job interviews, purchasing new furniture, and organizing the move itself.

If you haven’t already, start saving as soon as you realize this move is a possibility since the more effort you put into saving, the more money you’ll have when the time comes for needing it. Having adequate money will make the adjustment to your new home and new life much easier, and it may result in a better relationship since you won’t be struggling right away.

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