Today we want to share tips on how to leave behind a dangerous or toxic relationship. Romantic relationships are always complicated. However, it’s important that you do not excuse behavior that is toxic or dangerous just because you love your partner. Not only do you deserve to be respected by the person you choose to spend your life with, but you should also feel safe and secure in their company. If this is no longer the case, it’s time to think about bringing the relationship to a close.
Of course, in some instances, the relationship may be salvageable, which means that you can work together to tackle the challenges you are facing. For example, you could attend couples therapy to learn how to manage anger issues in a relationship. With that in mind, here is some advice that may prove useful when ending a relationship.
Know that your reasoning is valid
Toxic partners may try to make you change your mind about ending the relationship by insinuating that you are overreacting or do not have a valid reason for ending the relationship. After all, no relationship is without challenges. However, you must trust your gut instinct and know that your reasoning is valid – whether you’re taking action because you’re arguing too often, infidelity, or feel as though your lives are heading down different paths.
Know your rights
If you are ending your relationship due to domestic abuse or violence, it’s important that you know your rights in this scenario so that you are able to advocate for yourself and, if you wish to do so, press charges. As such, you may want to do a little research into the different types of domestic violence offenses, which could help you better understand the situation you are in.
Furthermore, there are plenty of charities out there designed to help domestic violence victims leave dangerous relationships behind. They will be able to give you specific guidance on the steps you should follow in order to help you stay safe during this difficult time.
Try for a clean break
When you end a relationship, it can take a while for you to be able to properly detach yourself from your ex. For example, feelings of love and affection do not go away overnight, which means you may feel tempted to reach out to them and reconnect. While the odd conversation can provide you with a sense of closure, the more you go back, the harder it will be to move on.
As a result, you should try for a clean break where possible. Delete their number from your phone so that you are less likely to reach out, and unfollow them on social media so that you do not find yourself clicking on their profile several times a day. If you do need to meet with your partner again, try to meet in a public space with other people present. This will help ensure conversations remain civil.
Focus on yourself
The best thing you can do after a break-up is to focus on yourself instead of continuously putting others before you. While this can be a hard habit to break, it can also be instrumental in your healing.
For example, it can help you to feel more confident or simply process your emotions and feelings in a healthier way, as opposed to simply letting them build up inside of you. This can also help you to get to know yourself again, which could help you whenever you feel ready to enter into a new relationship, as you know what you want and need from a partner moving forward. Fortunately, there are many ways in which you can begin to focus on yourself and your growth during this time. For example, it can be as simple as spending time with your friends and loved ones or practicing a bit of self-care.
Therapy can also be useful when going through a breakup, especially if you were in a toxic or dangerous relationship, which can easily take its toll on your mental health and well-being.
There are many reasons why therapy, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, can be useful during this time. Firstly, it gives you the chance to talk openly and honestly about how you are feeling, to a person who will be able to provide you with practical advice on how to turn your emotions into something more positive. This is particularly useful for those who do not feel able to open up to their friends and family as they do not want to worry them.
Furthermore, during therapy, you will develop a range of healthy coping mechanisms and tools that you can rely on moving forward. This means whenever things get tough, you’re better equipped to deal with the situation.
The end of a relationship is never easy, but sometimes it’s the right thing to do – especially if you do not feel safe or secure with your partner. Remember, you deserve to be happy, and you deserve to be loved. If your current relationship does not provide you with this security, it’s time to bring it to a close.
Of course, it’s often not as easy as a simple discussion, and you must ensure that you keep yourself safe when breaking the news. However, it’s also important to know that there are plenty of support systems out there that you can rely on or turn to as you navigate your way through the separation. While it can sometimes feel that way, you are not alone, and there are people ready and willing to help you – you just need to reach out.
As you begin to navigate the world as a single person once again, take time to work on yourself and your healing before jumping into a new relationship. Toxic relationships can truly take their toll on you in more ways than one, and it’s important that you’re able to process this so that you can heal and move forward with your head held high. Remember, while things are hard now, they can (and will) get better.